A 9-year-old girl wrote to Santa Claus asking that a relative stop touching her and her sister. You can read the story on KSL. When will abusers get a clue and knock it off. You have to be a WIMP to abuse a child, or anyone for that matter! Also, in my opinion, anyone who knows someone who is being abused and does nothing, should be charged for the crime.
{This is my short story about my kids SA...}
When we found out that, 5 of our seven children, were being SA...we felt as low as a person can feel. Words cannot describe how horrible we felt. Our kids were supposed to trust us and be able to tell us everything. We were supposed to be their SAFE place. Unfortunately, our children felt like they would be making things worse if they did tell. And, they were told not to tell! People are sick!
I can remember the night our kids told us. It's a scare in my brain that will always be there. One by one, my kids came to me and told me of the things that were happening to them. When one child stopped talking another started. I remember sitting at our dining room table, listening, for what seemed to be hours. Trying to hold in the tears and reassure them that I would protect them and I would stop it! They told me of details, that only a sexually abused child would now. I used to call it a 'waterfall of horror', but that's to nice. When I thought they were done, one of my sons came to me and said, "I tried to tell you, mom"....after talking to him for a minute, I realized he had tried to tell me TWICE! I have never forgiven myself for this....I'm not sure I will or can.
After telling my husband, we decided to take care of the situation and PROTECT them. And that we have! The perp has no contact with them. This has caused problems in our family. Family get togethers aren't the same and it seems to be our fault. Oh, well! Not worried about what other people think. I only care about what is good for my kids. I want them to know they can trust us.
It's been years since this happened to my kids but the scares are there. It seems that the perp's go through the courts, rehab or whatever but the victims are forever changed.
KIDS WHO TELL, ARE HERO'S.....and SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE A HERO!
SIGNS, my kids had, OF SEXUAL ABUSE (you can find more here):
- mood swings
- bowels problems
- eating disorders
- temper tantrums
- self-hate
- touching themselves
- fear
- fear of the dark
- crying episodes
- anxiety
- weight gain
- weight lose
- separation anxiety
- aggressive behavior
- withdrawal
- mood swings
If you think your child is being SA, please...STOP IT and PROTECT THEM! Most of the time, a family member is the Abuser. Don't be afraid to stand up for your child, they need you to. You wouldn't want your child to write a letter to Santa, asking for help....!
